In my own life experience, a message I have received through various areas of my life has been that it can be unsafe to have friendships of the opposite sex. Whether that's because it's impossible to be friends with a guy without it turning into a romantic or sexual relationship, or because it's not appropriate to be close friends with a man who's married, these messages can lead us to believe that ourselves and others are ultimately untrustworthy and that we need to proceed with fear or strict boundaries in order to have these relationships. I know that's not everyone's experience, but my hope in sharing this is to highlight the necessity and beauty of having friendships of all genders that are able to hold great intimacy and closeness without the end outcome always needing to be a romantic relationship. As I've gotten to witness the healing and life-giving benefits of those friendships in my life, I wanted to express gratitude for what they've meant to me, and encourage others to seek out a varied community for their own lives as well.
Expanding on the topic of intuitive dating and sharing stories of times I felt pressured into dating situations because of outside factors and how I've learned to tune those out and only do what feels right for me. I also share the importance of shifting my mindset around dating to one that's positive and hopeful rather than one that has given up all hope of ever meeting someone decent in this app-saturated world. See more over at hifriend.co.
When a topic is repeatedly put in my path, I pay attention to what it's there to teach me. And the concept of the mind-body connection and the ways in which our unreleased emotions and anger manifest as pain or dis-ease in our bodies is one that seems to be everywhere I look these days. Confirmed by a mini incident I recently experienced, I decided to share what I've been learning around this from multiple sources, and the tools I've started to use to healthily release unwanted and toxic emotions from my own body. I am so fascinated and encouraged by the growing awareness and conversations around this subject, and am hopeful for the healing and growth we'll begin to collectively see as this knowledge is spread. Find resources and show notes over at hifriend.co.
This is a topic I've had rolling around in my heart for the past year or so. The topic of who we're here to "help," how we know which path to follow in finding our purpose, and releasing the guilt around not feeling called to a life of sacrifice and service (as you may currently understand those words). You can even hear the resistance I'm still wrestling through in this episode as I try to justify the path I've currently set myself on when it comes to choosing the ways I'll use my life as a service to others, as I clearly have some beliefs deeply embedded in me around this idea. I hope my rambling thoughts make sense, and you're left with a feeling of relief, with the ability to release the pressure from your own life, and add practical tools for moving forward and focusing on one thing at a time in order to find wholeness in yourself as a way to bring healing to the world.
Sara and Kalee back together again! We may not have gotten to record sitting shoulder to shoulder on the floor of Sara's room, but after months of living apart, we finally got the chance to hop on the phone and catch everyone up on what Kalee's been up to the past few months, all the major and exciting life shifts she's experiencing at once, and how being long distance has affected our friendship. We don't leave out the hard and messy parts of being two different humans in very different chapters of our lives, and how we're choosing to fight for the beauty that is our friendship. We also share practical tips for navigating a long distance relationship between two people with differing communication styles, and why these types of conversations don't just need to be reserved for romantic partnerships. It was so good getting to share this space again, and we hope you enjoy listening in on our conversation.
As I've continued to be on a journey of discovering the ways in which I can change my thoughts, and in turn, change my beliefs, I want to keep sharing the mindset shifts that have been the most helpful for me. Today's episode focuses on reframing jealousy, an emotion that I find particularly bothersome, and how I turn those thoughts into helpful ones rather than harmful ones. I cover the practical ways I'm able to quickly flip my views around when it comes to things that used to make me jealous, and share the ways in which I'm still working through what that looks like in relationships for me.
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In this episode I'm sharing the morning routine I've created for myself that allows me to start every day with peace and calm, and I get specific on what I'm reading each day and the products I use to help wake me up, and most importantly, the feature on my phone that I believe makes all of this possible. It's been such a game changer for me and I love telling everyone about it these days, and since you're all my friends, I wanted to share it with you too.
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Through a series of revelations over the past several years, I started to recognize that there were beliefs I had been carrying with me around things I was waiting until marriage to do - whether that was a certain part of my life I could engage in, a specific thing I wanted to buy, or whatever made-up truth I had been telling myself - and have now slowly but surely started to reframe them in a way that allows me to step into those things now, without waiting on any unknown timeline. And the result has been so fun and so freeing. In this episode I share five different things I've decided not to wait until marriage for, and the ways in which those have helped me more fully enjoy my life right where I'm at.
Favorite times, repeating numbers, signs that show up in the most random places right when you needed them. All of these things are ways that I believe the Universe uses to speak to us in order to guide, comfort, or encourage us wherever we're at in life. I invited my long-time friend Lauren onto the show to share the beautiful story behind her sign, and tell the background and significance around mine as well. Head to hifriend.co to see accompanying photos to both our stories and important snapshots into our gangly, confusing, and precious junior high and high school days. Enjoy, and I hope this episode encourages you to seek out extra bits of love and magic in your everyday life.